Baby Q&A

Due date: February 3, 2010 (so I am 19 weeks along, almost 5 months)
Gender: We will find out on Sept. 21st. We don't have a preference, or had any special feelings on what it could be. Thought alot about which we prefer, but in the end would just love a healthy babe.
How have I felt? Good for the most part. Didn't get the whole morning sickness/throwing up in the first 3 months, just had an uneasy feeling in my stomach the whole time. I was super tired and only had 80% energy levels throughout, which was the hardest for me, since I wake up and don't stop until I go to bed. But I just couldn't do that! It has been harder than I expected, I felt like I was a tough girl going into it, all the pregnant women I see make it look so easy! I had not researched or talked to many women so I did not know what to expect really, also did not think it'd happen so fast, but greatful for it. But I made it through and feel awesome and back to normal again...for the next couple months at least.
We have known since June 1. Yes, we "lied" when you asked if we were expecting, but hellooo, you should not have been asking in the first place! Manners people, this is a VERY personal matter, to be made public when we felt ready. (by asking, it tells me you think my stomach is fat enough to have a baby inside!)
...I guess there is really nothing else yet to tell. We are super excited and looking forward to the biggest adventure of our life!

About the video:
I took Spencer to Asian Star. I had dropped off the present earlier. I held the camera in my lap, waiting for the waiter to bring out the surprise. As soon as he did I put the camera on the table and started rolling. No, Spencer did not notice it, he was too busy trying to figure out what was going on at the moment...as you can tell by the expression. What was in the present? Just a little onesie and my positive test. The card read: Dear future daddy, I can't wait to meet you in 9 months. Love, Baby. Awwwwwwww, I know! Spencer actually couldn't really read it, just kept looking at love, Baby and realized his thoughts were really true by that point. (idea's found online)

P.S. Is Spencer not the most adorable, sensitive man! I love him more than the world. (See the video below if you haven't yet)

Baby bump...or what!

We are over the age of 23 and have been married for more than 2 years, and are very happy. We have a great family size home for the two of us in a good area that we will be in for many years to come. I am a college graduate and we both have full-time jobs that are not going anywhere and are pretty flexible. We have traveled to various states and campgrounds over the past years, including a cruise and backpacking Europe. Pretty darn lucky, I would say to all that. We love to eat dessert after dinner and sweets throughout the day, and eat out on the weekends. We have put on a couple or so pounds, so what? We have been thoroughly enjoying life and everything that comes with it. So where am I going with all this? There is no mention of children yet, and a topic that has been a pressing issue on my mind. There is a lot of talk from society, especially here in Utah, for couples like us, and not like us, who have no children yet..."You are done with school!" "This is a big house for just two people!" "You have traveled Europe" "it's your turn now!" These are just some of the main comments directed towards us and many, many others out there. Also, it seems there is a lot of assuming, wondering and behind the back talk that because a woman's stomach may have a few more pounds and padding...maybe they are expecting! Adding a baby to your family is not just some sort of new thing. It is not like getting a new t.v. with a better picture and more buttons to learn, or a newer car that doesn't rattle anymore and goes faster, or even getting married where you have to learn to sleep next to that person and deal with their quirks. You are no longer responsible for just yourself, or a thing, but another person, who cannot care for themselves (your spouse can, for the most part!). You are adding a baby who is so innocent and completely changes everything about your life, how you think, eat, sleep, get ready in the morning, and go throughout the day. You are adding a special spirit to your family who depends on you for their life, as they would literally die without your care. Having a child is a life changing experience that you are "never ready" for, we know that. Someone may have been trying for a month or a year, and the comments may only remind them of the difficulty or emotions that are going on. You just never know. Maybe someone is a couple months along and just doesn't feel comfortable with sharing that information yet. You just never know. Deciding and having a child is a very personal decision and topic to each and every one of us, a decision that is between me, my husband, and God. Please respect that, and all those others who maybe newlyweds or married for 3, 7 or 10 years. There should be no pressure because "that is the next step." There is no cookie cutter pattern to when this next step should take place, it is a personal decision that is sometimes planned and sometimes a surprise, you are ready from the get go, or you need a couple or more years, any way it does not matter. Please think about this and pass the word along. (P.S. if you are one who has made a comment before I hope you don't take offense to any of this, just remember for next time!) In the end, it is ok to talk about children, but just in an unassuming or non-pressuring way. And yes, we are planning on having children (or we wouldn't have bought the new home we did!) WHEN...does anyone ever really know?! That question arouses many mixed feelings of excitement, anticipation, anxiousness and stress...many of you know that and I think would agree 100%. A woman is pregnant for 9 months, plenty of time to talk about it and celebrate at that time. P.P.S. Stop speculating about my stomach, I just LOVE chocolate, OK!